I read an article today that there were two Pinays who got swindled by their foreign boyfriends they met on the Internet into sending them money.
I am writing a blog about this because I can relate to this on two separate occasions.
Last year a cousin of mine contacted me thru email asking me to investigate this guy that she met on the Internet. She forwarded to me their email communications where the guy she met were asking her to send him money so he could start petitioning her to come here in the US thru fiancé visa.
The guy gave her his name and his supposedly California address with the instruction to send it thru Western Union or Moneygram. My cousin in her eagerness to come to the US was so into it that she was all set to send the money, but she somehow remember me and asked me for my help first to investigate.
I am no Sherlock Holmes, but a quick check thru Google Earth and I found out that this is a just a scam. The address that she was given is on a business district and that exact address is going thru a construction at that moment as evidence by the boarded up sidewalk and crane sticking up in middle of the lot.
The other red flag here is the instruction to send it thru Western Union or Moneygram only where you have no recourse to get your money back.
And just about 2 months ago, a college friend of mine has a similar case.
She met someone online and the modus operandi is about the same. Her “boyfriend” was asking her to help him. This one is a phishing scam that involves the Lloyd’s Bank. I Googled it and sure enough there was this article warning people about that. See www.lloydsbank.com/help-guidance/security/phishing.asp to read what is all about.
The thing that our kababayan should realized is that if your boyfriend abroad, someone who you have never yet met, is asking you to send him money then you are not into a real relationship.
Just be realistic here, if he could not support himself now and asking you for help then how in the hell could he support you in the future? One requirement of the fiancé visa is that the person who would petition you should be able to support you. If he would borrow money from you then he is in no capability to even start the petition process let alone prove to the US Immigration that he has means of supporting you.
My advice to you all who is looking for a husband that will take you here in the US is to be honest and upfront. Those ladies borrowed money to send to those bastards. If you don’t have it, you don’t have it. Don’t borrow money to lend it to someone you haven’t even met in person.
If they just say, hey I don’t have money, then they’ll probably stop and if they persistently ask, then moved on. Because it’s not real. I know that you want to make a good impression to your would-be partner, but to present yourself in a way that you thought would impress him is a big mistake.
Let me elaborate further and I am talking on experience here. I am on my early 50’s and spent more than half of my life here in the states, divorced and got 3 adult kids.
Last year I came home in January for the first time since leaving the Philippines in 1985 to meet the niece of someone I know here in the states.
She is a very pretty woman who have 2 girls ages 5 & 9. Initially, I thought she was 29 and later on I found out that she was just 25. Which makes her just 16 when she had her first baby.
She lied about her age because she fears that I would think less of her if I would find out that she has a baby at a very young age. I don’t like it a bit that she lied to me so I moved on.
In April I came home again because of another girl, someone I met while I was there in January. This one is a real beauty who has a 6-year-old son and I am ready to bring her back with me to the states.
The issue I had with her is that she was not ready to commit on a very short courtship and she wants me to prove to her that I really love her. She wants a long courtship because she was worried about what her neighbors and relatives would say; that she is only hooking up with me after a short period of knowing her because of the green card.
Don’t get me wrong. I am no Brad Pitt, but I could hold my own on a crowd of good-looking men. What she wants though is out of a question because I don’t have that luxury to do want she wants. So we parted ways and came back to the US without her.
Then I met another Pinay thru online dating site. She is a nurse working in Malaysia. We have been “on” since July and she is very good-looking and I know this for a fact because we constantly go on Skype. And the best part is she has been to the US as a tourist and her visa is multiple entry for 10 years so there is no wait.
She could come anytime and just marry to change her status and obtain a green card. But she would not come. There is always a reason why her flight was postponed. So I did some research and I found out that she has another Facebook account and on it I saw that she has a baby girl in the Philippines. Why she won’t tell me that is beyond me. I don’t care if she has a baby. That has never been a deal breaker. Maybe she is married, who knows but her.
The bottom line here is all 3 of them lied.
The first one lied about her age to hide the fact that she got pregnant at a young age. The second one made up some stories to prevent being the subject of the gossips around her neighborhood. I discovered later that she was crying hard for losing me. Then the last one lied about her daughter which is really no big deal to me, but to hide that fact is unacceptable because when is she gonna tell me? Later on when we are already married?
So my advice is this; just be real. Truth will come out sooner or later so better come clean now.