Redefining success

With the global economic crisis in full swing, millions of people all over the world losing their jobs, their homes, their savings drying up, maybe it’s time to redefine what success is.

For far too long, success has been defined by how far one is on the corporate ladder, how big one’s salary is, how large the house & how many fancy cars are parked in the garage, & by how many blings & brand name clothes & accessories one has. But since so many people have lost these or are in the process of losing most or all of the material trappings of success & wealth, does that mean these people are failures? I personally don’t think so.

For me, there’s more to success than a job title, how much money one has in the bank or how many material things one possesses. Being rich or poor is a state of mind, & both are temporary phases, especially the latter if you work to make a better life for yourself. Those of us who have experienced what it’s like to be poor & who are now living better lives know this to be true.

I think it’s time to expand our definition of what ’success’ is. Success doesn’t always have to be synonymous with wealth or fame, and of course everyone will define it differently.

For me, my personal definition of success is achieving whatever goals I’ve set for myself & becoming a better person. On my deathbed, when I look back at my life & I can say that I was the best wife, mother, friend & person I could be, then I can say that I’m a success. Until then, I’m a success in progress.

Let me end this entry with this quote:

“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”
—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882), essayist, poet, philosopher

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Originally posted on my friendster blog 2/3/09.

About Den Dominguez

I'm a 43 year old mother of two boys ages 21 & 10. I've lived 21 years in the Philippines, 14 years & counting in the US, five years in Japan & nearly two years in Rome, Italy. I love reading, learning, hanging out with family & friends, traveling, & occasionally, writing.