I attended an orientation this morning about the medical benefits provided by the company. I, along with my gay teammate went to the boardroom and joined the others while waiting for the orientation to start. I looked around there’s just about 10-15 people inside the room, others from our department but most of them are from other department. My attention was diverted to the guy sitting across me, he was a bit talkative, his expressions are a bit exaggerated and his tone of voice is a bit on the feminine side. I know that he’s gay.
Orientation started, we were listening but I kept my attention on him. There’s something in him that seemed different that I can’t discern. I can hear him say side comment like “ECHOS” “GIRL” and “BAKLA”. I told myself that it is proven, he’s really gay. I directed my attention and started listening to the speaker. Then, he asked a question regarding his legal dependent. I heard him say “MY SON”. I thought I misheard it, but he clarified it he asked how he could add his youngest son as his dependent. I was shocked. It was the last word I expect to hear from him.
After an hour the orientation ended there was brief pause then my gay teammate asked him if he was joking about having a son. Apparently, I was not the only one who was disturbed by his statement. The guy answered yes. All of us were staring at him and he decided to break the silence and share a bit of his life.
He said that he WAS gay and spent his money with guys. He said that he was the typical happy-go-lucky gay. He had relationship with guys and didn’t deny that he had experiences with them. But an incident changed his life; He said that there was a time that he got drunk along with his friend. He did not know what he was doing. He said that he just woke up in bed with her. It may sound like a scene from a movie but it did happen and the girl got pregnant. He knew that it his responsibility to take care of the baby and the mother. He said that it was difficult to forget the things that he used to do but there is a bigger responsibility that he has to face. He and the girl lived together; He took full responsibility of the baby. While they were together, he said that he started liking the role of being a father and a husband. Whenever he sees his baby, he said that he realize the beauty of having a family. He did not regret what he did. He is proud that despite his physical appearance, he proved that he’s a man, a good father and a faithful partner. Now he has his wife and they have 3 beautiful kids.
I was so amazed with his story and I came to realize that a being man does not really show on physical appearance. A real man knows how to take responsibility no matter how great it is. He denies himself and lives for the people he truly cares about even if it means living a life that was never part of his plans.