PARALLELISMS IN LIFE: A midlife perspective

Life is a journey.

Or even, LIFE IS A VOYAGE.

It is actually a series of journeys into different and sometimes erratic directions, in one’s quest for the ultimate destination.

And on a parallel perspective, one journey PREPARES you for life. And yet another LETS YOU TRAVEL THROUGH LIFE in the search for your ultimate port of call,

your PURPOSE.

LIFE IS  A JOURNEY OF OPTIONS AND DECISIONS.

The nurture and guidance of one’s parents and other family members early on, the years of scholastic education and the lessons picked up along the way, may and could prepare you for it. But it can only go as far as helping you weigh your options and objectively select from among the array of choices. And even though you don’t have total control over all the elements, the decision of choosing is yours to make, eventually. Some of it can be life changing and you are to be accountable for it.

I would have wanted to be an architect, but circumstances had it that I be an engineer.

I would have wanted to work in Cebu, but circumstances had it that I find secured employment in my own province.

Yet while some things are circumstantial, it was I who made the decision, eventually.

LIFE IS A ROLLER COASTER OF THRILLS AND CHALLENGES.

In my youth, the thought of independence, earning and providing for myself thrills me. The idea of standing on my own two feet and proving to the world my worth excites me.  So that a few months after graduation and while reviewing for the board examination, I was already browsing on classified ads for job vacancies that I may be qualified, and applied for some of them. I walked in the streets of Cebu on business clothes and heavy leather shoes, as required in their ads, towards those offices with job offers, not minding the scorching heat, the irritating dust from the pavement and the pungent fumes from smoke belching vehicles. Because it was in Cebu that I planned to build a career.

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But it was not meant to be. The odds were not in my favor.

And I then realized that I have finally arrived in the real world. And in the real world, you do not always get what you want and life isn’t going to be a walk in the park. In fact, IT’S A JUNGLE OUT THERE! A jungle where everyone wants to survive. And later still, I realized that if you aren’t too careful and allow it, it could consume you and turn you into a scheming, manipulative, opportunistic predator on the lookout for the helpless and vulnerable prey, or the other way around.

LIFE IS AN EVERYDAY ENCOUNTER WITH KINGS AND SERVANTS.

As we conduct our everyday existence, we shall encounter people from all walks of life. Different folks with different strokes. One notable feature on these encounters is the display of power and influence. And it can be in any place and in any situation: in the household, in the workplace, in social circles, in just about anywhere and with just about anything.

The kings we may encounter could be as humble and kind as David, wise and just as Solomon or arrogant and vicious as Herod.

Arriving into the real world, I had an early encounter with Herod. Fortunately, I later realized that while we have to live with fact that the likes of him exist and thrive amongst us, there are much more Davids and Solomons out there who treat their servants fair and square, preserving their honor and dignity.

So that if your journey allows you to be king, please don’t choose to be a Herod.

LIFE IS A CONTINUING TURN TO LEAD AND TO SUPPORT.

There will be circumstances and situations where you are called to lead. And should you decide to take on the challenge, always strive to be the best leader that you can be. And whether it be a challenging or trivial task, do it with the same passion and energy. The serious call to lead is a vote of confidence not given to everyone.

However, in instances where the task to lead is given to another, your contribution of support carries equal weight. Always remember that there will be no game of chess if the pawn refused to play.

If given the choice, I’d rather be the supporter than the leader. But in the many instances I was called to lead, I always try to acknowledge and give due appreciation to the support of the members of the team in every task accomplished. Each member is of equal importance because a leader can only do so much.

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LIFE IS AN ENDLESS OPPORTUNITY TO BE GRATEFUL OR TO COMPLAIN.

It is always easy to complain with just about anything and we are quick to rant about almost every little inconvenience we experience. We can be so engrossed with our own lives that we forget that we are not alone and that there are many out there whose troubles and problems are greater than our own, yet they do not complain.

For anyone who may be reading this, its means you have access to the internet. So before you complain about your inconveniences, think about the many who have no access to food or even water, to warm clothes and to a roof above their heads.

In spite all the complexities in life, we can always choose to broaden our perspective, imbibe positivity and to appreciate and be grateful for what we have rather than complain on what we do not have.

Count your blessings, name them one by one. YOU HAVE MUCH MORE THAN YOU THINK.

Nobody said life would be easy all the time. Like riding a ferris wheel, you will be on top at one point and down there the next. At some point its feels like you are soaring high like an eagle but you could be a wet, helpless chick in the middle of the rain the next. Like the weather, the sun could shine brightly today but there could be darks clouds or even turbulence tomorrow. And the turbulence could turn into a storm and could last longer than you thought.

BUT LIFE SHOULD BE A CHOICE TO BE HOPEFUL AND TO KEEP THE FAITH…

… TO TAKE STRONG GRIP AND HOLD ON

… AND CONTINUE THE JOURNEY TO THE ULTIMATE DESTINATION, WHEREEVER IT WOULD BE.

YOU MAY NOT KNOW IT, BUT GOD KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU.

ALWAYS.

 

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a typical Arian born in the Year of the Sheep, considers himself lucky in friendship and regards friends as gifts, and enjoys a good laugh.