Marriage Rules

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Sana ang rules sa pag-aasawa pareho sa military rules…

Whatever happens, never leave your partner

Ano man ang mangyari, walang iwanan. Hindi ‘yung nagkaproblema lang kayong dalawa iba na agad kasama mo, ‘nagpapa comfort’ daw. Hindi mo na kaya ang ugali niya. Marriage is also risking your future with your partner.

To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”

Nangako tayo sa isa’t isa, panindigan natin ‘yun.

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Pack one pack all

Problema niya sa kahit anong aspeto, pamilya man o trabaho, problema mo rin. You may have started as individuals, but now you are as one. Consider each other’s input and meet in between. Hindi puwedeng gusto mo tapos ayaw niya. It will result to even in smallest misunderstanding.

At ang malaking problema ay nabubuo sa inipong maliliit na problema.

Support each other, and for sure the celebration of your success is sweeter than you could expect.

What you see, what you hear, when you go leave it here.

Sa away ninyong mag-asawa, kayo lang dapat. Hindi kasali ang mga magulang, kapatid, kaibigan, kapitbahay; kahit aso’t pusa.

Bakit? Kasi, dalawa lang kayong natutulog sa iisang kama, unless katabi n’yo pa rin sa kama sila Mama at Papa, ate at kuya, kasali din ba sila sa labing labing? ??

Kidding aside, solving your family/marital problems all by yourself makes your bond stronger. It enables more confidence with our partners and most importantly, trust and respect with each other is built.

Hindi pwedeng everytime may problema kayo sa isa’t isa, “Ma, ‘yung anak mo gabi na naman umuwi, lasing, kulang inabot niya.”

“Pa, ‘yung anak mo hindi man lang makapaglaba ng mga damit namin, laging sunog ang ulam.”

‘Yung tipong paglabas mo ng bahay ninyo ipagsisigawan mo sa mga kapitbahay kung gaano ka-walang hiya ang asawa mo, may kasama pang mura.

When you decided to marry someone, it comes with a responsibility to take care of your spouse. Kasama na doon ang pangalagaan mo ang dignidad niya at ang pagkatao niya.

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And please be advised, na wala kang karapatang murahin ang asawa mo dahil hindi ikaw ang nagpakahirap para mabuhay lang siya nang maayos.

Irespeto natin ang magulang ng mga asawa natin by not insulting our spouses.

It’s not just about loving each other, being aroused by your partner’s scent or having a baby; that’s why we get married.

We should understand that marriage is a commitment. Love and beauty will surely fade with time, and the commitment to stay, respect and trust each other will depend on us.

It is something that we have to take seriously as a vow — in front of God and in front of all the people who are important to us. It means more than that piece of paper that we signed.

Marriage fails not because the two of you are not meant for each other, but because the two of you did not take the commitment seriously and gave up in some circumstances.

You see, “It takes two to tango” — not just the wife, nor the husband only.

So please, let’s treat Marriage as sacred as it is supposed to be.

About Mary Louise Despi