“Love is expressed as an action and experienced as a feeling. Yet, love has an essence that resists defining in any single way; it encompasses compassion, determination, tolerance, endurance, support, faith, and much more..”
Usapang Pag- ibig tayo mga kumare at kumpare ,habang wala pa ang aking prinsipe…(Charmos!!!) Pag usapan na muna natin ang mga iba’t ibang istilo ng makabagong “I love you” sa panahon ngayon… Well, hindi lingid sa ating kaalaman na kung gaano kabilis sumikat ang araw at gaano kabilis ito lulubog sa kanluran, ganun din kabilis ang takbo ng teknolohiya sa ating mundo! … hindi lang iyon pati na rin ang mga paraan at istilo ng ligawan sa makabagong henerasyon, kasabay nito ang pagdaloy ng pagbabago ng nakaugalian ng bawat mamayan!
“Courtship is the best part of a girl’s romance and love life”.
Naalala ko noon, during high school life, oo mga te, dati walang uso ang cellphone!!!!
Love letter ang uso dati sa panahon ng aking heherasyon! Di nga!!! ( akalain mo naman batang 80’s ako eh, at masarap sa pakiramdam ang mga naranasan ko, ang mga dating kakornihan daw!!)
Wee!! Pag batang 80’s or 90’s ka mga dre, makakarelate ka! Well…… iyon kung na appreciate mo ang buhay mo sa loob ng dekada otsyienta at nobenta!!
“Hi, Pwedeng gawan mo ako ng love letter para kay Petra?? Type ko kasi siya kaso Suplada!! Di epekto ang pacute ko!!”
Ito iyong first move nang mga kalakihan na torpe sa kapanahonan ko!!
Love letter na dinidikitan ng laway or kanin sa isang intermediate paper (dahil minalas walang pambili ng linen paper- ito yong may mga mababangong amoy na papel.) Back to back na talumpati ni ninong Rizal at parang balagtasan sa haba ng mga linya na kinokopya pa sa mga aklat ng sinauna! (di uso ang copy paste sa laptap eh!!) Na kapag nabasa naman ni Petra, for sure papakipot pa ng maraming beses, bago makukuha ang minimithi ng matamis na oo !! At kapag napasagot naman ni Pedro si Petra, abay ang haba ng lipad sa paglundag sabay suntok sa hangin pa ikamo!!! Kasunod na nito ang pagsabay sa paghatid ni Pedro kay Petra sa tahanan ng dalaga , pero ni kamay man lang ay di makahawak si Pedro!!
Ikanga sa nabasa ko, “Courting under Filipino tradition gives very big importance on the value of respecting the woman and her family and strictly adhering with proper rules set by society for pursuing a lady. This practice which dates back to the Spanish times prohibits men to be very aggressive or becoming even when they want the lady very much. One cannot just talk and approach a lady in the street and ask her number or address. If a young man sees a lady he likes he should seek out the help of a go-between, usually a common friend of both family, to ask the permission of the girl’s father whether he can visit them in their house. This is the gentlemanly thing to do so the parents will most likely approve unless of course the lady is just a child. After the initial visit, the suitor is then expected to woo the girl by showing up in her house more often and establish rapport with the her family. This is the stage where he does the “paninilbihan” or servitude. He serves the girls family in any way that he can to show to them and to the girl of his sincere intentions and love for her, be it by chopping firewood, fetching water from the well, etc. It is a way of saying “I will do anything to prove my love for you”. At night, he will sing “harana” or love songs outside the girls house by the window with a guitar and his friends serving as backups. They will sing and wait until the lady finally opens the window and invites them into the house. They will then be served with light snacks and they can talk in the presence of the girl’s parents and the man’s friends. Note that in most times, the couple will be with either friends or families. It is considered inappropriate to leave an unmarried couple unsupervised in those times no matter what their ages are. “( Credit to Philippine culture and tradition.) May ganun pa kaya ngayon!?
On my teen age life, (aw teenage pa po naman ako ngayon hehehe) Ligaw- tingin, Lipad hangin na love letter, Harana ni Pedro kay Petra , na kung makakabirit ay walang iniinda, Kitakits sa puno ng mangga!, hahalik sana sa kamay pero di umoobra! Biruin mo kamay lang di pa uubra!!! Iyon ang dating ligawan sa kapanahonan ko!
Now, speaking of makabagong istilo??? Well , alam mo na siguro!!!
Accordingly, Credit to Philippine culture and tradition,
“Although a lot of our traditional wedding practice is still being observed these days there are modifications and “evolutions” that has been introduced to it that gives it a more modern version. Modern Filipino courtship revolves more on the liberalism of Filipino youth. You can now meet a girl you like through a common friend or on a party but never on a street as the same is still regarded as inappropriate. Most parents would still want their children to be courted inside the house though some modern and liberal-minded Filipinas don’t do this anymore and prefers to meet up somewhere else instead, a clear disregard of tradition and parental respect. Modern courtship does not really have a pattern. It could start from a group date where friends would pair friends up and tease them. Friends could play cupid and set a couple up and leave them on their own to talk then before you know it they are going out on a date. With the influence of western television, modern courtships these days are going fast although it doesn’t necessarily have the emotional baggage attached with immediately going to bed. It would take a lot longer time for Filipinos to trust each other to get to that point. It stems on the virtues rooted from the olden days. Modern Filipina ladies are also decisive on their choices. Those who do not really want their suitors would not hesitate on letting them know of this fact. A refused suitor is called “basted”. Under the Family Code of the Philippines, marriage is a special….. It is important though to note whether it is traditional or modern, to show your sincere intention of courting by introducing yourself to the family and impressing the girl’s family in any way that you can.”
“Mobile Texting, Dating online, social networking”, kumbaga ito na ang In ngayon, old style of courtship have been replaced by the modern lifestyle of our generation! Kumbaga, Itaga mo man sa bato, madalang mo nang makikita ang luma at makatradisyong paraan ng pagsasabi ng I love you sa napupuso-an ng bawat isa!!
Ikanga, kung wala kang Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tmbler , BBM, Whatsapp, etc at etc pa, di ka nabibilang sa Makabagong panahon..Well, anyway, bahala na kayo kung ano ang gusto niyong paraan, basta ang importante na mapanatili natin ang katahimikan sa bawat isa sa ating tahanan…Ano daw!!!???
Well, sabi ng mahiwang Wikipedia
“Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure .It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.
Hindi na kumbaga “USO” ang mahabang ligawan.. di nga ba??. Kung nagkakaintindihan man kayo mga ‘dre sa pamagitan ng makabago o makalumang paraan ng I love You, Go lang ng Go!!!! Your choice na ang mga iyon.. Na siya sige po,,Layas na muna ako at dumating na ang prinsipe ng buhay ko!!!