“Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of fulfillment outside of ourselves.”
How to maintain a healthy relationship…..?? Mga katanungan na nagbibigay puwang sa ating mga puso para malaman ang mga katangi-tangi at di kanais-nais na mga rason sa pagpapanatiling malusog ng isang relasyon. Hmmmm!!, knowing the basic tips on how to maintain a healthy relationship helps keep us alive, having it meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad times.
Naahh! Ito po ay base lang po sa aking opinyon… Nasa sa inyo po if susundin niyo po ang kaunting kaalaman na aking natuklasan sa pagkakaroon ng Lovelife( echus lang!!!)
Anyway! Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Paano nga ba ito? Simpleng katangungan na mahirap bigyan ng kasagutan!! Sensitibo at maaring magdudulot ng iba’t ibang uri ng pagkilatis sa mga opinion.
Well, here it comes!! Ito ay ilan lamang sa nadiskumbre kong epektibo!
• EXPECT UPS AND DOWNS…
Ito ang una sa aking listahan… for me it is really important to recognize that there are ups and downs sa isang relasyon (seryosong relasyon at hindi fling lang) . Sometimes one partner may be struggling with an issue that stresses them, such as the sudden death of any member of a family, or other events, like job loss or severe health problems, Don’t take out your problems on your partner, na pwedeng makakaapekto on both partners at maaring maging dahilan para mahirapang intindihin ang bawat isa. Expect that you won’t always be on the same page. You might have different ideas of managing finances or raising children. Different people cope with stress differently, and misunderstanding can rapidly turn to frustration and anger. Some problems are bigger than both of you. Trying to force a solution can cause even more problems. Every person works through problems and issues in his or her own way. Remember that you’re a team. Continuing to move forward together can get you through the rough spots. Expect the unexpected (in terms of having up and downs) but the most important this is, “Knowing the limits, and putting an effort to handle it! Importante, end of the day ay mapapanatili ang mga ngiti sa labi… No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship!
• KEEP PHYSICAL INTIMACY ALIVE.
Ito na! Alam mo naman siguro kung paano mo mapapatawa at mapapasaya si partner mo. (Credit to psychologytoday.com) “Studies have shown that affectionate touch actually boosts the body’s levels of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. In a committed relationship between two adult partners, physical intercourse is often a cornerstone of the relationship. However, intercourse should not be the only method of physical intimacy in a relationship. Regular, affectionate touch—holding hands, hugging, or kissing—is equally important.” Do I need to explain? Kailangan pa bang e-memorize yan, ikanga!?
• COMMIT AND SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER ON REGULAR BASIS DESPITE OF BUSY SCHEDULE.
TIME- accordingly is the best thing you can give to your loved ones. Naalala mo pa ba ang lahat kung paano kayo nagliligawan at nag uusap o nagtetext na di niyo man lang namalayan na inabot kayo ng umaga? Even during very busy and stressful times, a few minutes of really sharing and connecting can help keep bonds strong. Plan to travel together. It can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or going on a day trip to a place you’ve never been before.
However, as time goes by, demanding jobs, long commutes, different hobbies and other obligations can make it hard to find time together. It’s critical for your relationship, though, to make time for yourselves. But, to find something that you enjoy doing together, whether it is a shared hobby, dance class, daily walk, or sitting over a cup of tea or coffee in the morning is quite a try! It’s pretty cool doing new things together and it can be a fun way to connect and keep things interesting.
• GOOD COMMUNICATION IS A FUNDAMENTAL PART OF EVERYTHING! NEVER STOP COMMUNICATING!
Di nga!! OO nga! When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well, and times of change or stress can really bring out disconnect. As long as you are communicating, you can work through whatever problem you’re facing. Sino ba naman ang ayaw ng communication! Spend time sending sweet nothing text, I love you sa umaga sa tanghali o sa gabi! Either way, Ipalam mo na mahalaga siya saiyo at gusto mong ibahagi ang nagging araw mo sa kanya!!! Use your senses, a happy face too… If you’re not calm and focused, you won’t be able to communicate effectively. Maging senstibo din pag may time,it reduces stress quickly though each person responds differently to sensory input, so you need to find things that are soothing to you.!!
• RECOGNIZE WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO YOUR PARTNER. GIVE AND TAKE BABY, LEARN HOW TO LISTEN AND RESPECTFULLY RESOLVE CONFLICT!
YEAH BABE,Matutu kang makinig at I recognize mo kung ano ang importante sa di importante! Give and take, hindi iyong take ka lang ng take! Baka mapagkamalan kang epal sa kakapalan ng iyong mukha!Respectfully resolve the conflict between the two of you too!!! Pinag awayan niyo ba kung anong petsa ba dapat I celebrate ang birthday mo?? Na dapat ba ikaw na lang ang laging nanalo sa pagtatalo niyo! C’mon babe, in relationship, the goal is not to win arguments but to resolve the conflict with respect and love. Make sure you are fighting fair. Don’t attack someone directly, communicate how you feel. Don’t drag old arguments into the mix. Ang lumang topic, left it behind, tapos na iyon! Keep the focus on the issue at hand, and respect the other person. Hey baby, makinig at wag epal na I-cut ang explanation ng isa! Get niyo ba!?
• SPEND TIME TOGETHER TO TALK TO GOD. STOP COMPLAINING BUT GIVE THANKS TO HIM ON EVERYTHING!
Maglaan ng oras para sa panginoon! Meditation! Matutung magpasalamat sa mga bagay na natatanggap! Wag iyong magco-complain sa sirang gripo sa lababo, ang nakakairitang kapitbahay na nwala nang ginawa kundi pansinin ang mga nagkalat na basura at etc at etc pa! Many couples focus on their relationship only when there are specific, unavoidable problems to overcome. Once the problems have been resolved they often switch their attention back to their careers, or other interests. However, romantic relationships require ongoing attention and commitment for love to flourish. Whisper and say a little prayer on him! Our relationship with God is perhaps the most intimate thing we have. When we invite others into this(PARTNER), we are inviting them into intimacy. One way married couples strengthen their relationship is by praying together. Certainly, dating couples should pray together. But the manner in which they pray should preserve their personal boundaries. Married couples can pray as one unit before God. Dating couples are still two individuals.
How to maintain a healthy relationship WILL DEPEND on you!
Staying involved with each other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right. Keeping outside relationships and interests alive… As long as the health of a romantic relationship remains important to you, it is going to require your attention and effort. Enjoy and have fun doing things together!!