Paano Ba Maging “Cool” Mom?

Are you a mom to a teenager? Have you experienced being called as Jologs? O di naman kaya masabihan ng “wow, Mom you’re ill”!! At katulad ng isang karaniwang nanay, wala kang idea kung ano ang pinagsasabi ng anak mo sayo..Nandyang susuriin mo na lang ang facial expression nya para maintindihan ang ibig sabihin ng jologs, o kaya naman ay ill..lol

I am a mother to a teenage son at yes dapat cool ako hahaha. Otherwise baka maging katulad ako ng ibang nanay na sobrang stress dahil di ko maintindihan n ang aking anak. At kapag ganun may tendency na mag away lang lagi kayung mag-ina o di kaya naman feeling ng anak mo, talagang di kayo magkakasundo, resulting to becoming rebellious ng bata o di kaya naman ay nagiging sobrang pasaway… I have some tips baka makatulong…analyze the situation at kung alin ang pwede nyong mai-adopt..

Think like your teenage child...hindi pwedeng gayahin mo yung pagpapalaki sayo ng parents mo sayo dahil iba na ang generations nila sa ngayon. You have to think like them so you can understand them..Put yourself in your child’s shoes, mas madali mong maiintindihan ang anak mo at maka reach out sa kanya.

Learn their language..be observant, and listen to them kapag nakikipag usap sila sa mga friends nila. I only found out na ang “ill” pala sa lingwahe nila is very good, hehhe ang layo at hanggang ngayon iniisip ko pa kung bakit naging ganun ang kahulugan nila.

Be friendly ..As a mom, you dont have to be just a mother but be the bestfriend as the same time. Kapag me trust na sya sayo, he/she will not keep secrets at lalo kayong magkakalapit sa isat isa..

Respect their PRIVACY.. this is one important issue na nakakalimutan ng karamihan ng parents. Learn how to respect your child’s privacy. Di lahat dapat mong alamin but be cautious and be assertive in a silent way. Otherwise ang magiging tingin sayo ng anak mo is “busy body”…

Be a joker and wag pikon.. ang mga teenager nowadays masyadong taklesa sa pagsasalita not knowing that they are actually crossing your line, but you can talk to them privately at daanin sa biro  ang pagtutuwid sa kanyang pagkakamali.

Show your authority but in a democratic way..Never mong ipapakita sa anak mo na ikaw ang parent kaya ikaw ang dapat masunod. BIG NO. Persuade him by making him understand that everything is for his/her own good.

Give him a choice…always give your teenage child a choice. Never give them what they always want. They should realize also that in giving them two choices, there will always be YES or NO..

Encourage them to have a discussion with you…never shut them off, let them express their feelings and listen to what they say. Believe me it works. Charged to personal experience=)

Marami pa actually, pero para sa akin ito ang the best na maipapayo ko sa mga parents…

Let him/her make mistakes…tiyak marami sa inyo ang magtataas ang kilay dito sa huli kong sinabi..Why I said this??

Very simple lang naman. Tao ang anak nyo, it is but normal for a parent to be protective and sensitive kapag ang anak nyo ay nasasaktan. But by letting them to make small mistakes, it will also the best time for them to realize the consequences of their wrong doings. Mistakes can create a big lesson for them too. So okay lang na magkamali ang anak ninyo. Petty mistakes are okay pero ibang usapan na siempre pag malaki yung kasalanan. LEarn to define the problem or mistakes na nagawa ng anak mo. At higit sa lahat..wag na wag kang maghi-hysterical!

Ang teenage life kasi nanjan yung gusto subukan lahat. Teenagers are very adventurous. It also the period where your child is creating his own world, meaning he wants to him his/her image away from the parents. Never get offended kung ang anak mo ay unti unting kumakawang sayo…Its normal.. Wag kang magiging crying mother dahil nagdurugo ang puso sa pag iwas o di pag pansin ng anak mo..Use the above tips I gave  at tiyak na makakatulong yan to re-connect with your “baby” …=)))

Goodluck =))

Ms. J

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  • alex

    thanks ms.j.. sana mabasa din ng nanay ko to ehhe.. masyadong old fashion kase pati sa pagpapalake samen eheh.. minsan di namen sia magets ng mga kapatid ko.. agad mainit yung ulo..

    more blogs ms.j :))

  • Kristin

    Pinabasa ko sa Mama ko itong blog mo Ms. J hehehe, nangiti ;ang sya kasi nga may tendency sya na maghysterical lagi pag late kami umiwi dahil sa school projects. Thanks po at least Mom realize what she should do to understand me and my kuya. FYI po pala, shes making notes. Yes!!!

  • Juliette

    I couldn’t agree more, its all true..

  • malu

    nakakarelate ako dito.my son would brag sa friends that am a cool mom.marami daw naiinggit sa kanya.its because pinalaki ko sa liberal na paraan ang anak ko.mag isa lang sya and bawat dsisyon sa buhay nya we talk about it…pag nagkamali cya we talk things out.dati akala nya am spoiling him but i told him kailangan matuto sya on his own.now at 16 first yr college and living on his own malayo man cya we communicate..and f we are together para lang kaming buddies though mahirap ang life being a single mom gumagaan kasi open cya magsalita kaya alam nya wala cyang karapatang magrebelde