My midlife crisis…

My mid life crisis…

According to Wikipedia, “Midlife Crisis” is a term used to describe a period of dramatic self-doubt that is felt by some individuals in the “middle years” or middle age of life, as a result of sensing the passing of their own youth and the imminence of their old age.


It started months before my big 4-0, I wasn’t exactly sure of it now looking back. Feelings of doubt boredom, indifference, insecurity, unhappiness, being apathetic and uninterested which have escalated to being angry and helpless at times. The thought of going through menopause also crossed my mind, but they say my age wouldn’t agree with that.


I used to wake up everyday feeling so much energy like the sun shining so brightly until one day slowly and probably, the sun got caught somewhere else and I couldn’t find it. I was in complete ignorance that some of these feelings of mine were somewhat related to having “midlife crisis” after all.


I had been brought up from a middle class family and had good education which I owe to my parents. Married life had it’s ups and downs just like any other marriages but still have survived through all these years. I wouldn’t say I had a hard life neither to say I had a luxurious life, let’s just say a comfortable one.


My question is that, “Where the heck are all these negative feelings coming from?” Read and had done my homework, thanks to Google for the answers to my questions had been answered.

“It further adds, midlife crisis is more complicated. Those who have a hard time with this transitional stage might experience a range of feelings such as:

*    Unhappiness with life and the lifestyle that may have provided them  with happiness for many years.

*   Boredom with people and things that may have been of interest to them before.

*   Feeling a need for adventure and change.

*  Questioning the choices, they have made in their lives and the validity of decisions they made years before.

*  Confusion about who they are and where they are going.

*  Anger at their spouse and blame for feeling tied down.

*  Unable to make decisions about where they want to go with their life.

*  Doubt that they ever loved their spouse and resentment over the marriage.

*  A desire for a new and passionate, intimate relationship.”


Never would I consider being in this stage in my life until a friend told me that maybe I was experiencing mine now and realizing these factors, yes I think maybe I am at that stage right now! I know now that this is just a passing stage in mine or anyone’s life for that matter. We may or may not be contented with what we have right now, but this experience somehow changed me in a way. One thing I learned is that this is a just a phase I am going through and just like the other difficult phases I had gone through in my life, surely I will pass it with flying colors!




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  • Myalterego

    i think i’m going through the that same stage now…i dont really know where i’m headed,tnx for writing this blog at least i know that i’m not the only one feeling this,good luck to us and may we both passed this midlife crisis thingy : )

  • thank you for this article..i am in my 30’s and also experiencing this so called mid life crisis… i have no one to talk to coz im afraid they wouldn’t understand my feelings.. i just pray to God, for Him to give me courage and strength to face this stage in my life…

  • lucia

    Yes midlife crises is true! i experience it right now at my ages of 50’s so many thing bother in my mind…. actually i’m not happy in my married life, i even married to the man i never love ever since before. But life must go on. Having 4 children i am the one who need to strive to our daily bread and i am so grateful to our Lord that i survive. Now all my children are all graduated on their 4years chosen course. and now i feel alone and lonely many question bother me, many (what if ever) in my heart. am i not selfish? do i love my self? what will i be tomorrow? do still a chance for me to find happiness? who will be with me when i am decrepit already? all my children have their own life already. who will take good care of me? this only some question bothering me. In my lonely room i shade my tears, i know this is what they call midlife crises, i thanks God that He give me strength to go on!!! God Jesus is my only refuge!!! all of you out there who maybe experience the same of what i feel just turn to Jesus and He will give you rest!!!

    • devi retuya

      I like what you wrote. I am on my late 30’s and still single. I wonder what it would be in the future. I may not regret having a husband lol as I don’t have one but for sure I will regret about something and whatever it is I do not know. But even on my younger years and until now I still have some regrets but every time I experience a day of sadness I always have God almighty to back me up. God almighty gives me strength to go on living and to live a more happy, productive life in spite of it all. I could not even say that my life is really so productive thinking of the fact that I don’t have kids and I don’t see anyone having a good life with my help I still feel accomplish. I am accomplish not because I have been a mother or whatever – I am accomplish that in spite of it all I still believe in God almighty.

  • nesty

    Is this a woman thing…or it depends on what age is the middle…just kidding…I just turn 50 and never experienced those things you were telling in your blog…sorry but can’t relate…hope you can pass that phase in your life…good luck!!!

    • coolasas

      mid life is a stage both men and women get to experience … everyone reacts differently … maybe you were lucky to missed it or you have a different take in how you lived your life … according to a friend mid life is 20-25 years beyond your ages (while old age is 40) … so maybe you’re still in yours hehehe 🙂

    • I have to agree with you…I’m 41 and fortunately! I have not come across these things. Hopefully I am sincere in saying that and hopefully I am not in denial either. Although ” feeling a need for adventure and change….Questioning the choices etc…confusion about who they are and where they are going”, are not bad ideas at all, in fact I see it as positive things. I guess it’s a matter of being bounded by cyclical lifestyle, in a rut. Familiarity brings complacency that could lead to boredom and anger. I am not a psychologist or anything to that effect for sure but could it be the mid-life crisis that we call is not really a crisis? It might be a stage in our life that we re-connect to our spirit. Aligning more to a selfless purpose.