Confessions of The “Other Woman”
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“Hi, Angel Vicky! I’m one of the likers of your page Ti Voglio Bene. I read your blogs and found them simple but expressive and touchy. I wish I could also write like you but then I don’t have the guts:( So I thought of sending you this message to ask a favor from you. May you write a blog for me? Below are the details of my story. I hope it won’t give you a hard time organizing them. I look forward in granting my request and I would be very grateful if you do so.
Thank you.”
Ms. Desperada 2012
This is a private message I received from one of our followers. Unfortunately, she doesn’t want her name to be mentioned so let’s just call her Bella. And here is her story.
My name is Bella. I’m 30 years old with a son. I’m married to his father but been separated for seven years now. He works in Dubai and lives with another woman. Since he left us, I assume all the responsibility for my child. I am employed in a private company in Cavite and with this, I’m very grateful that somehow I could provide our everyday needs. I don’t mind the difficulties of being a single parent, as long as it is for our own good, I really strive hard.
And since I am busy being a career-mom, I don’t give time anymore for love. Pero sa totoo lang marami pa rin namang nanliligaw sa akin. Siguro kasi sabi nila bata pa naman daw ako, maganda, maputi, at balingkinitan ang aking katawan. Kaya lang naisip ko, kasal ako at inabandona tapos meron pa akong anak, sino pa kaya magmamahal sa isang tulad ko?
Until I met Roel. He’s a Medical Doctor. I met him in the private clinic of my son’s Pediatrician. We had a few chat then while waiting for my son’s Pedia (he and the Pediatrician are friends). Roel is handsome, sensible and warm. And before I leave, he took my mobile number and said, “thank you for the time.”
We became friends later on and we go out often. By then, I learned that he was married with two kids. We share the same “likes” in almost everything, especially about outlooks in life. And just like me, his children are his priority. And because of being close to him, I cannot avoid to confide on him about all my problems. And so as he. Nalaman ko na matagal na palang hindi maganda ang pagsasama nilang mag-asawa. Iyon ay dahil sa paglulustay ng pera ng asawa niya.
At dahil nga sa pagiging malapit namin, hindi nagtagal ay may nabuong pag-ibig sa pagitan naming dalawa. Hindi namin inaasahan na makakaramdam kami ng ganito ngunit hindi din namin sinasadya na mahalin ang isa’t isa. Kusa naming naramdaman sa hindi maipaliwanag na dahilan. Actually, we even tried to resist our feelings, lalo na ako dahil alam kong may asawa siya, and I know how painful it is. But everytime we were so down in despair, we can’t help but stay in each others’ arms and feel the comfort and love.
Mahal namin ang isa’t-isa at ayaw naming masira ang relasyong ito, so we agreed to keep this just between the two of us. I mean no one among our families or anybody who knows us that we are having an affair. Because we believe, in this way we couldn’t hurt anyone or ruin the lives of our love ones.
Yes, indeed I’m in love with a married man and I’m a certified family wrecker. Any one reading this would find me stupid. But what should I do? I don’t want to lose Roel. I also wanted to feel again how it is to love and be loved. Actually, I envy other women (including Roel’s wife) who found a man who would never leave them. And now that I have a lovelife that I would cherish,whatever consequences awaits, I won’t hesitate to share it with his legal wife, and I won’t mind to be called a mistress, a third-party or the “other woman.”
This whole story was copied and pasted directly from my Facebook messenger. Some changes were done on spelling and grammar. I hope you like Bella’s story and feel free to make comments or give her advice.
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Justifying ur love for a person, doesn’t make things right.. And u shud know, it happened to u.. Something like this should not be tolerated, why did u let the relationship hapen in the 1st place.. Ur thinking like a teenager, grow up.. I am a bit furious about such reasons.. It is darn stupid to rationalize being madly in love with a married man and cannot help urself.. SELF CONTROL is all u need.. And all of this is coming from a daughter of someone like u who didn’t stop to break my family.. And its not good.. Ur children will even suffer the consequences u made.. Tsk3. Its not too late to change ur ways..
I find it disgusting when people intentionally put themselves in a situation where they’re not supposed to. How many times have we heard about this kind of story? This isnt the first time there a woman who intentionally gets herself involved with a married man. That should NEVER BE TOLERATED. Paulit ulit nangyayari sa society natin ang ganito. Kesyo tao lang, marupok, nagmahal lang. That is definitely bull. You’re definitely a selfish home wrecker. Dont get yourself involved with people who you know are married with kids. Dahil the kids definitely always suffer. There are billions of people around the world, at ang papatulan mo pa ay may asawa. Ayusin mo ang buhay mo and try to be a better individual.
Hi, Bella..I understand how hard it is for you to be in this position. But I can’t say it’s right… Just like what an old woman said in the film “Fire Proof”, (which i highly recommend everyone to watch) “if he can do it to another girl while he’s still married, how can you be so sure, he can’t do that to you?”…Love isn’t selfish…if you really love him and you know he has a child, you’ll learn how to love in the way God would wants you to love…did you even think of the consrquences it would bring to his wife or his child if you would continue this relationship.bside,hindi
ikaw ang iniharap nya sa simbahan at pinangakuan na sasamahan sa hirap at
ginhawa…masarapagmahal…pero mas masarap magmahal nang walang kahati o nasisirang
pamilya..you should know that..because you’vebeen there..i know it’s hard..but i hope you could find the strength to stop that kind of relationship..you deserves someone else who would love you back the way you love them..but not from someone who already belongs to someone else..may god bless you…