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How can I accept it if my mind and heart refuse to do so? My own assessment tells me that I am not a lesbian because apart from my partner, all the people who I get attracted to are boys. Moreover, I am not also a bisexual because bisexuals get attracted to straight girls, and obviously, my partner is not a straight.

After giving out an enormous effort to researching, I found out that what I think and feel is right. I am not a lesbian because my partner is a transgender. So what am I talking about? What the heck are transgenders and what are their difference from lesbians and bisexuals?

Lesbians and bisexuals as labels merely point out to the sexual orientation of the person whereas transgenders identify his/her gender identity. Transgender can be used interchangeably with transsexuals to call people who want to identify themselves opposite their biological sex. However, transsexual is often used to label people who have already undergone hormone replacement therapy or gender reassignment surgery.

Majority of transgenders, if not all, have already concluded that they were born in a wrong body ever since they were able to think and analyze. So being a transgender concerns the whole being of a person, his/her identity.

My partner’s a transgender, and that’s what made me think that I am not a lesbian or a bisexual as opposed to what other people think and say I am. My partner identifies himself as a man, and I see and treat him as a man, end of story.

Maybe I sounded so defensive with this post. Forgive me,  I was just so tired of people questioning about and dictating my sexuality. Yes I know that I should not let other people’s words get into my head, but I just can’t help it. I am always bothered.

I am sure that I have not discussed the distinction very clearly, so you are very free to comment or challenge what I have written. What do you think? This is just a start so expect other posts about issues like this in this blog. I cannot cram them all into just one article.

Thank you for reading my first entry! I hope that you learned something new. Remember that in this world, people are very diverse, and so their gender identity.


Lexy :*

author: alexafajardo



  • Secret Lang


    wish we have PRIDE or PFLAG or something like that here. Just like other countries. Whatcha think? 😀 and sorry i havent mention what kind of person I am. Well IDK either. haha. I identify myself as straight but sometimes i am attracted to girls. well thats it.

  • Secret Lang

    i agree that most bisexuals are attracted to straight people. but i also believe that they can be attracted to bisexuals too (if they’re lucky to find one) haha. i mean, you’re both bi, so you definitely have the reason to be in a relationship. being attracted to straight people doesnt guarantee that they can do the same for you. Well i honestly would prefer to be with a girly girl (if she’s okay with that) than a butch. just like how girls are in other countries.. you know,, queers.. 🙂