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They Say TIME Heals, I Say Otherwise

About Eigh

I'm a 19 year old amateur Filipino blogger and writer... I write about relationships, bitterness, being in love, moving on, and the sorts... I know it's a cliche for everyone, but those things are one of our everyday challenges that we have to face, believe me. :D

How long can a person hold on?

How long can a person endure?

Five years?

Love is not something that expires, or at least that’s what I’ve been told. Truly, love doesn’t cease to exist. It lives thru rain, pain, thru every drought and every gain. But how long can a person hold on to love if it’s not reciprocated? Does it take five years or more? Well I tell you, it doesn’t just take time to heal. It doesn’t just take time to forget your feelings towards a person.

BELIEVE ME, IT TAKES MORE THAN TIME.

I can say “I’m moving on today.” I can say it again the next day, or next week, or probably next month. But if I don’t work to make it happen, it won’t happen. And then you’ll have a timer and time yourself and you’ll say, “After this year, I’ll be over him.” And then the year passed by, you saw him walking pass by you. You felt a pinch inside. You suddenly can’t breathe. You look at him, and you saw him looking back at you. No one moved. No one said a thing. Until both of you were drowned by the crowd. And then you think and ask yourself, “What did just happen?”

Whenever you see him. Whenever he ignores you. Whenever you do anything for him to notice you. And nothing happened. You’re hurt. Because the truth, you kept hanging on.

You log-in to Facebook, you open your twitter account. You said things really meant for him on your statuses. You give your heart to every words you encode on your status bar. You hit enter and see your words being published. Everyone liked it. Everyone felt it. But sadly, he didn’t. You turned your music on and heard Adele say, “but if I tell the world, I’ll never say enough, ‘cause it was not said to you,” you realize you’re so weak. So scared. So chicken. You’re a coward pretending to be brave, facing everyday like nothing’s wrong. Laughing at every jokes like you’re truly happy inside. And you fight back the tears that wanted to run down your cheeks until your throat hurt.

And then it’s Christmas season again. You feel the breeze hit your face. The scent, the coolness… everything in it seems to remind you of how painful love can be. It’s a cold season, but you’re alone. You long for sweetness from that person. Just a small greeting will do. But he will not greet you. You’ll wait. You’ll expect. But nothing… Nothing on your phone, on your mentions, or even in your notifications.

All I want to say is that if you want to let go, do it yourself, TIME will not do it for you. STOP expecting. STOP waiting. STOP pretending. “Tears are alright,” Prof. Morris Schwartz said. LET GO. Be brave enough to do it yourself. No one but you can do it. It’s your failure, yes! But at the same time it’s your achievement! There are lots of fishes in the sea… don’t forget it.

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  • Simply Amazing

    It’s a matter of time to heal the pain. Day by day you will realize that’s enough and you have to walk straightly. God is always in your presence and he will not let you walk alone.

  • glad to know I’m not alone… we can do this. aja!

  • marieands

    Yes, there is a saying that “time heals all wounds” but you should also exert effort. Focus on the other aspects of your life and be determined to get over the love you lost. Don’t get caught up in the past and just move on.

  • fe

    true it is hard to let go someone esp f u are truly inlove. as f all ur feeling belongs to that someone and before you know it u left nothing to urself anymore just the pain and treasured moments you shared together. and it is really hard to ease that pain. as f u cant stand anymore alone and no cant move forward for ur ownself. but maybe you’re not destined to him. i think God has a wise plan for you and mind you He will not give you problems that you can not solve by yourself. yes at first it is hard to bid goodbye. time passes away and it will heal f not fully at first. Goodluck . . .God bless. . .

  • Jianne

    I believe so too. 🙂

  • cheche_francesca

    kahit tumagal ang panahon kung dka pa din nakakamove on mahuhurt ka padin kapag naalala mo xa…but if u ask for the help of our God im sure saglit lng yan at my masmaganda xa plan according to his will…