Love VS. Romance and Lust
I believe most of us really don’t pay attention with the differences between these two (love and romanc
e) because obviously these are needed to make a relationship last. I, for some time now, have been contemplating about this matter. Many of us have mistaken Romance as Love…admit it or not ..we just don’t care..for as long as we’re happy and we’re in a relationship..for as long we say I Love You and I Love You too then that’s it…that’s love ….that’s romance….
Romance, of course is necessary, during a getting-to-know-each-other stage. However, we usually miss the most essential part of being in a relationship, LOVE.. it should be rooted by Love… More often than not, we enter into relationships because we feel this captivating emotion. .the fuzzy feeling in our spine and the butterflies in our stomach…the complete perfectness of our day and night.. Moreover, both individuals can just share romance in just one night stand too.. You have sex with someone just because your flesh is raging in lust. This mostly happens when you are truly attracted to the other person. Sad to say that sex is just so casual nowadays; just for pleasure, a night of romance in bed. Let’s say you decided to be in a relationship after the sensual night and your relationship lasted for couple of months then try to ask yourself if is it really Love that kept that relationship going or just romance with lust?? Now try to deeply think of it… was it really romance with love or romance with lust?
Differentiating romance and love is really quite confusing if you really gonna think about it especially when you’re already used with just the feeling of romance all the time. Love is beyond all those heart beats, roses, candles, balloons, love letters and butterflies. When you say LOVE, it is all about commitment. Love is all about being with your partner through happiness and tears…It is a deep emotion that comes within yourself , enough for you to long for your partner’s happiness and security more than you want your own. Romance on the other hand keeps the love going and keeps the love stronger each day…
BUT…
What motivates you to be romantic? Is it LOVE or is it LUST?
It is LUST when you’re just after with your partner’s body. The longing or just the urge of having a mate when you feel like it.
It is LUST when you no longer appreciates your partner’s beauty (inner and physical) because you find it not exciting anymore and that you’ve found someone fresh and new…
It is LUST when you only think of your own benefits from the relationship…
It is LUST when you’re just totally focused on her/his looks and body.
It is LUST when you make up alibis not to be with your partner until you feel horny again. (sweet talks, gifts and blah blah blah just to get what you want after not wanting to spend time with your partner) …
It is LOVE when respect is present in your relationship.
It is LOVE when you still see beauty despite of your partner’s horrible looks..:)
It is LOVE when you feel that SEX is not necessary to be connected with your partner.
It is LOVE when you see yourself spending the rest of your life with your partner despite of their weaknesses and shortcomings.
It is LOVE when both of you help each other to be mature (emotionally, mentally, and spiritually)
It is LOVE when you face your partner’s parents with courage, respect and honesty.
Bear in mind that Roamnce cannot stand alone.. it should go along with the two motivators… either Love or Lust.
Before I end this article..here are questions to ponder..
Is your relationship driven by Romance with LOVE?? or Romance with LUST?
If you could never have sex with your partner until your marriage (no matter how romantic you are) , would you still love her/him?
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Nice article…love and lust is confusing…2 years without the s.. thing is something ..but the longer it is…theres that connection we want…its part of the passion and attraction….intimacy…its beyond to show affection..S*** can be misunderstood …guys can be misenterpreted that’s all we want…but we can’t deny ..we miss those most of the time…and its a part of being in a relationship …we respect when she says no…soo crucial:)… and some can go years without….IT………and its a test of time if that love worth saving it at the end.
Romance with love..:) I really love my boyfriend and I know he loves me as well.. almost 2 years pa lang kami and we never had sex because I believe na it should be done with the right person and should be after marriage., as for the quote nga na “True Love Waits”..:)
anyway, nice article.. I love it..!:)
like it ashley!
keep the purity until your marriage 
Romance with love. I can see myself growing old with my husband.. and even if we’re apart cause he is working in Manila and I’m working in our hometown, just the same I find him excitable whenever he goes home and misses him every time he’s not with me and I don’t think anything or anyone can change my feelings for him.
and take note: the feeling is mutual.
“If you could never have sex with your partner until your marriage (no matter how romantic you are) , would you still love her/him?”
I never had sex with my wife until we got married even though we could. Kaya naman kung gugustuhin….