Dear Women
If you can’t take criticisms, do not read the entire post. This is a one-sided blog just like any girly girl blogs about how they hate men or how frustrated they are about the things that men do.
Don’t tell me I didn’t warn you.
Dear Women,
I have observed that most of you nowadays have grown selfish.
Yes you have grown selfish. The relationship always revolves around on what you want about the relationship, not the relationship that works both ways. You always try to say to yourself that you are unappreciated, unloved, and neglected but have you truly loved anyway?
You always tell your guy you want this and that because that is not the relationship you wanted but have you tried letting him love you based on his own concept of love? When he try to catch your attention, you find it annoying but have you ever thought that he only wants to show his girl that he appreciates that she is around and he needs her time? Have you ever thought of giving him time to play, work or do his activity because he wants to be the best so you will be proud of him? Have you ever thought of giving him what he wanted not the thing you wanted for him?
So you see, we men also want what you wanted. Not just sex. And that is one of the most annoying thing you think of us. You women always think that when we love, we always think of what is inside of your panties. We know what is the difference between love and sex.
I came to realize that you women also love the idea of being abused or maltreated. Not because you enjoy the feeling of being maltreated, you enjoy the feeling of being the one who is favored. You are spoiled. There is a law that states that women can file a complaint when they are physically or emotionally abused or hurt. But what about men? Can we file when you try to abuse us? When you mock us in front of your friends? When you yell us? When you tell us that we are no good? Do you know the feeling what it means for a man when he is told that he is no good?
You women wanted to be the center of attraction. Yes. Center and it requires full attention from us men but when we give to you our full attention, you always try to tell us that we are too much attached to you and you don’t like that; And it is all right for you to get jealous if we give our attention to others but you don’t like us when we get jealous. You are human also and capable to be tempted just like us. And isn’t it just a natural reaction when we men wanted to protect the most important person to us because we know how men act? You wanted us to give you trust yet you cannot provide the trust we need? Isn’t it unfair?
I came to a point that I thought you women love jerks because you always complain that your past lover did not provide you the love you need but when you are in a relationship, a man gives his whole heart out, sacrifices his time and makes his every effort the best for you. But you try to take it for granted. Why? Because you wanted that you are the one who should give love and your lover is the one who only receives. Is it a bit unfair that you only have the right to love? And don’t hate me for telling this because I have been taken for granted. Three times. And that’s why I am trying to be a jerk, because I have never tried to be one.
So you see, you always tell that you are not loved, being left out or being abused. It is not because we men wanted it. It is because you never let us love you the way we wanted to show to you. What have you done with your partner lately? Do you think that a simple pulled down underwear will make us feel that you love us? No. We also wanted to be appreciated and acknowledged. We also want YOUR attention and not of your FRIENDS’ just to show that you have a boyfriend or a husband or a boylet. We also want you to be responsible of your actions. We do understand that you need independence but have you ever thought that you need to be responsible of your actions also? If you do not want us to flirt around with other women, then don’t flirt with men also. It is not enough you don’t do anything wrong, you need to know that we men are human also. We are capable to be hurt, mad and jealous.
So you see women, you never see that you make mistakes also. We always take the blame when we cannot understand you but have you ever understand why we do such a thing in the first place? Have you ever heard of our insights? Our ideas? You women always wanted to be favored. And you watch too much chic flicks that revolves just to women alone.
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Youre so cool! I dont suppose Ive learn anything like this before. So nice to find any person with some original thoughts on this subject. realy thank you for starting this up. this web site is something that’s needed on the internet, someone with somewhat originality. useful job for bringing one thing new to the internet!
thank you for your comment. i am flattered.
Wow! I’m impressed!
With 3 heartbreaks/heartaches i won’t blame u for writing such.. Well it’s good u’ve got the chance to express what u have in mind/heart..
Cguro misundertstanding lng tlga kasi u guys can’t tell women frankly things needed to be discussed/settled becoz umiiwas sa away..
You certainly need not to be a jerk anyway, u just have to find the right one..
thanks for the compliment. well i cannot find the right one for me. she needs to prove it.
she’s just beside u..u just have to open ur heart for her..”joy”..
u’ll be a perfect match..
=)
Haha! Claire! I couldn’t help but comment. Really now? Are you a matchmaker?
just give it a shot..=)
hahaha can you be more specific?? LOL
Need not to be specific..
she already reacted..
Joy be with u..=)
Your blog has the point, but as women all I need to a man is love and respect and trust.
Well I think we women we say sorry if we made mistakes or we feel jealous unlike some men won’t say anything unless its too much on their chest:)
I’m just saying:) PEACE
no prob! like i say its a one sided post.
im a girl…and i wasnt really hurt at all by this (bec i have never been in a relationship before..need i say more?)…but indeed, i have seen and observed…then realized that most women are like that…and indeed, it becomes a selfish love cycle…i guess i shouldnt ponder or believe much to what cosmo is saying..hahaha…
amen to that.
ahh hanap ka na lang ng same na maintindihan ka hahahaha
astralshift….im a women pero agree ako sau.tama ka pero hindi nmn lht ganyan.mkakahanap k din ng girl n maiintindihan ka ung open minded.my mga babaeng mhirap intindihin tlga.humanap ka lng ng babaeng malawak ang pgiisip mdami ganyan…i just want to hug you i know may pinagdadaanan ka.just want to comfort you…
Boys, I recommend you stay single. If you’re gonna get married, hold it off for as long as you can, better if you can avoid it. Get a college degree, invest your money, open up a business, or do what you want but make sure you make yourself financially stable. Single life is too precious to just give it up. Don’t be a loser by having kids when you are young. Fix you life first and put yourself into position before getting married (again better if you can avoid marriage). Trust me, hot sexy beautiful nice women will flock over you if you can provide security for them. So boys, if you are a nice reliable guy and the girl you want in high school wouldn’t talk to you because she prefer the bad boys or jerks, I’m telling you, she’ll regret it once you guys become older ONLY IF you are able to establish yourself where you have money and financial stability. The young hot sexy cute beautiful chinitas/mestizas that you can’t get will be the one to come to you. Meanwhile, the girl who ignored you back in high school will become old with crows feet and turkey necks will suddenly want you now but guess what, you wouldn’t touch her with a 10 foot pole, hahahaha!!!!
True true true!! I actually wanna yell out “OUCH” in every sentences that I had read. Fair enough mister, point taken it makes me wonder tuloy, selfish nga ba ako?
Lol
This is funny and smart!
Eye-opener to all self-centered women and you will definitely have negative replies especially from those narrow-minded women that you pointed out here.. Hahaha
I do agree with you that majority of the women are exactly the way you described.. Pero may mga babae din naman who understand men..
Good luck in finding the right one!
awww:( I wanna hug you! seems like you’ve got some issues about women, but nevertheless, you should not consider everyone of us women as this.:) Hindi lang naman sila ang babae sa mundo, once you meet others, you’ll realize what I’m saying
Very well said Astralshift.
You have a point there. Women should also realize their mistakes. 
But, every relationship is unique so we can’t generalize men or women for their wrong actions in the past. Anyway, thanks for being an eye-opener for some women. 
God bless!
Dear Author,
(*warning: this is a VIOLENT reaction.)
I had great difficulty reading past the first few paragraphs because right from the start i already did not like the sweeping generalization that you made, to quote:
“Dear Women,
I have observed that most of you nowadays have grown selfish.
Yes you have grown selfish. The relationship always revolves around on what you want about the relationship, not the relationship that works both ways. You always try to say to yourself that you are unappreciated, unloved, and neglected but have you truly loved anyway?”
To be honest, I did not finish reading the article. My blood pressure went up some notches already and I did not want it to shoot beyond the aneroid sphygmomanometer. If I finished reading the whole article, I would have to possibly refute all the points that you made.
Let me just comment on two things:
1. Please do not generalize. Not all women are like that.
2. “You have grown selfish”? We’re we, women, unselfish before? Before when? Human beings are selfish by nature, no gender preference. It takes some degree of maturity to learn to become unselfish. No gender preference.
Yours truly,
One Woman
your reaction is highly acknowledge.
acknowledged*
diba kaya nga sinabi mong one sided eh.. LOL
A friend’s comment regarding this article, makes me want to read it. It caught my attention, so I go over it, actually I read everything, and I even read some comments. I agree with the comment of Joyce Pief?
And also, he is right of course to some, not all. Based on my owned experience, its right…. in fact, not just selfish, but very cruel…cruel in the sense that from day one “she” my owned experience… her eyes were wide open when “she” involved herself in a relationship where I was in… and now, “She is blaming my man of what was going on in her life….
To my fellow women, just don’t take it personally… for whether we like it or not, there are already women who are selfish, cruel, users, ungreatful to what their men done to augment their lifestyle…. USERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The man is still a man where not all the ladies favor where given. Basta ang alam ko gusto lang mostly ng guy respect. Hindi ko alam ang relasyon ng iba basta ako bilang babae 100% respect ang dapat i approach sa mga lalaki. At iyon ang main menu ng aming relasyon. Respect….plus trust….
Actually fingers are not all the same, some of your observations are true some are not but the fact is that men cannot live without women and vice versa…
Ms. J tama ka po..
It finally got posted! This was actually why I wrote my “Dear Men” letter. It was supposedly in response to this one. =)
thanks bud! didnt know that madaming tao pala makaka appeciate ng sinulat ko LOL
I told you!! You have to post the other stuff you have written on here too.
wow..good observation..ouch..Ahaha
I’m a girl, but I totally agree with this. Not because I’m any similar to what’s stated., In fact, I have never been in a relationship, because I dont want to experience things like these. Totally awesome observation.
be in a relationship(romantically). you are wasting half of your life if you dont feel the feeling of falling in love and be loved in return.pain is inevitable, you just need to be ready for it.
yeah, you should go into relationship, follow your heart, its afterall, all is fair in love!
Also, try to read some articles in how to have successful relationship..
ahahaha ouchhh!