Third Sex: Love and Lust
Love comes in all forms, shapes and sizes. It has no boundaries. Lust is a different thing. It is one of the seven deadly sins. And I believe that most people have this wrong connotation that homosexuals act based solely on lust. They associate Lust and Homosexuality as if these two are synonymous.
What about love?
I guess I’m writing this as an attempt to rationalize. I have read a recent article here tackling same-sex relationships, and I was actually surprised on how most people reacted and responded to it. From what I have seen, I realized that there are still a lot of people who find it unacceptable. And honestly, I felt a little disappointed on all the skeptics’ perception about homosexuality.
I was wondering if anyone who condemns the LGBTQ community have thought that love is actually involved into this never-ending issue.
Sure, anybody would want to have a life within the norms. Everyone wants to be accepted, right? Certainly, it would be easier if their love story goes like this: boy meets girl they fall in love and got married and live happily ever after.
But here’s the painful thing, being gay isn’t a choice.
Love is way beyond any reasoning. And sometimes the case is presented like this: boy meets boy, or girl meets girl. A deep attraction forms, a meaningful relationship follows, and eventually they’ll fall in love with each other and love flows. Love? Yeah. You can control it for some time, you can hide it all you want, but you won’t be able to deny to yourself what you really feel. It could even haunt you forever.
Okay, I’m all braced up for those who would want to bombard me with bible verses. You can rant all you want especially with the Sodom and Gomorrah or the ‘abomination’ thing but here’s how I see it. I’m not a bible expert, but I think it pertains to the lust that is immoral. The motive behind the action. The bible have tons of verses about love. And as for me, I don’t think there’s something wrong if two guys are ‘together’ or two girls are engaged in a more than platonic relationship. For as long as love exists in between them, as long as they’re not cheating, or involved in another intimate relationship, and not hurting anyone, what should be the problem with that?
As humans, I know that one of our major tasks is to ‘Pro-create’. I can’t present a strong argument for that except for the fact that infertile people also exists. And it’s not that they have a choice. For the LGBTQ, they could use alternatives too, in order to reproduce.
Same-sex marriage. Tackling this issue would be a nightmare. A dream to converge morality and legality. It would be like the debate over RH bill in the Philippines — an argument that seems to be leading nowhere.
I do respect the skeptics’ opinions but I think it’s about time that we give these people a chance to live without condemning or discriminating them.
And for the each and every one of the third sex, if you weren’t reminded recently, I would love to remind you that You are beautiful. You are special. And You are not alone. The rainbow community exists. Go flaunt your wonderful colors!