May-December Affair: The Sad Part
Note from the Author: Names of the REAL characters were changed..Another True Story..
Can a May-December romance work or is it that age really does matter in relationships? May-December romances are relationships in which one of the individuals is significantly older than the other, meaning that one is in the spring of her life while the other is in the winter of his life. Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones have made it work at sa ganitong klaseng relasyon iikot ang story ng buhay ng ating mga characters..
Ginanap kamakailan lamang ang aming Christmas Staff party…
Ano ba yan mag-ama o mag-asawa? Tanong ng mga tsismosang nakakakita kina Marlen at Tony..
Si Marlen, maganda,mestiza, slim, matangkad at parang modelo kung titingnan. Sa edad na 35 years old, iisipin mong 25 pa lang, palibhasa maalaga sa sarili. Nagtatatrabaho si Marlen sa ibang department ng company namin. Bagamat “bagong salta” lamang sa aming kumpanya, nakatawag na agad ng atensyon si Marlen. Half Pinay, Half American sya. Kaya napakaganda nya at halos marami syang manliligaw. Natatawa na nga lang si Marlen kapag may dumadating na bulaklak sa office nya sa dahilang marami pa rin ang nag aakalang sya ay dalaga pa.Walang mag aakala na meron na pala syang asawa. Hanggang ipakilala na nga nya sa staff party namin ang kanyang asawa…
Si Tony, purong Pilipino. Halos 60 years old na si Tony. Bagamat halata na ang edad, di rin maikakailang gwapo at simpatiko si Tony. Magaling at maayos magdala ng damit. Pangalawang asawa na nya si Marlen at meron na siyang anak sa unang asawa. Matagal na silang divorced ng makilala nya at maging asawa si Marlen.
Sa western culture, balewala ang May-December affair. Ngunit alam kong sa ating mga Pilipino, medyo taboo pa rin sa atin ang ganitong uri ng relasyon. ‘Di ko naman nilalahat pero karamihan pa rin sa ating mga Pinoy ay mapanghusga.
Ah tiyak, yang lalaki mayaman! Comment pa ng isang ka-officemate namin habang patuloy na pinagtsitsismisan ang ating mga bida..O kaya naman, tiyak yang si Marlen “kabit”.. Napapailing na lang ako, gustong-gusto ko ng lumipat ng ibang table, ‘di ko kasi malunok ang mga pinagsasabi ng mga katabi ko sa mesa. Marami pa silang pinag-usapan na walang kakwenta-kwenta..Mga tao talaga oo, naibulong ko na lamang sa aking sarili….
After 3 days, back to work uli ang lahat. Nagkatabi kami ni Marlen sa isang table sa aming cafeteria…Hello Ms. J..How are you? Hindi masyadong marunong magtagalog si Marlen. I’m good, thanks for asking…sagot ko naman. You know what Ms. J, there’s something about Filipinos that I hate…. most specially those who work with me in my department ! Bagamat nagulat ako at muntik ng masamid sa iniinom kong kape, nakabawi naman agad at tinanong ko ng, What is it? What happened? Outspoken si Marlen, kilala sya sa pagiging prangka sa aming opisina..Hell, they are gossiping too much! They’ve been spreading malicious stories that I am like this, my husband is like that, blah-blah…..
Halatang naiirita si Marlen. Sinabi ko na lang sa kanya na ‘wag ng intindihin ang mga taong naninira sa kanila at lalo na sa kanya dahil marami lang inggit sa kanya.
It just pisses me off really..Can’t they mind their own business?!!!
Just take it easy, you are just giving them the satisfaction by showing that you are being affected , sinabi ko na lang kay Marlen. Remember Marlen, these people tries to pull you down because you are above them…So ignore them…
Thanks Ms. J… Why cant some people understand that in love, there’s no age, no boundary, no race or what so ever… I hate people when they judge me without trying to get to know me first, galit pa ring salita ni Marlen.. You know what Ms. J when we visited Philippines last year, everywhere we go, eyes are following us like we were the most odd couple, it was so annoying…patuloy na pagbulalas ng sama ng loob ni Marlen. The worst part was when we checked-in in one hotel, a receptionist told us that they don’t accept walk-ins especially those who would stay for few hours. We were shocked, we didn’t even mentioned that we need few hours to stay, only to realize later that they thought I am an escort woman to an old man client. My husband was so angry and shouted to that woman in the reception. My wife is not a whore!!!
Nagulat at naawa din ako sa mga kwento ni Marlen, may mga ganun talagang tao at kahit ako, ‘di ko rin mainitindihan na sa kasalukuyang panahon at exposure na nakukuha natin sa araw na araw na buhay, may mga tao pa rin na ‘di kayang intindihin ang katotohanan ng buhay na ang lahat ng tao ay magkakaiba , katulad din ng ating mga daliri. Kahit dito sa Amerika ay nakakainis makasalamuha ang mga taong akala mo pinaka perpekto na sa mundo. MAs nakakaawa sila kung tutuusin…
Going back to Marlen and Tony, they’re a match made in heaven, isa sa mga napakagandang samahan ng mag-asawa ang nakita ko sa dalawa…My advice to them na huwag na lang pansinin ang mga anay na pilit na sumisira ng pundasyon ng kanilang pagmamahalan…
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another example of may dec affair is kevin kline and phoebe cates.happy and still in love, despite the 15 yrs age gap.
i do believe that when it comes to relationships there are no boundaries..even in age..
yung mga taong masyadong mapanghusga,. wala lang silang magawa sa buhay…kaya idaan na lang yan sa kabilang tenga…as long as the couple is very happy..then there’s no problem with that…at wala silang nilalabag na law… then that’s fine..
^_^
judgemental people have very low esteem with nothing better to do. you even see some of them in church on sundays!
judgemental people have very low self-esteem with nothing better to do. you even see some of them in church on sundays!
*we have 23 yrs age gap..but till now nagliligawan pa din!oh dba bongga!13 yrs na kami:D!
i have a may-December relationship. naicip na namin yan kaya di kami masyadong PDA sa public. alalay lang lang sa kamay mostly. why? kasi sa observation ko gayan nga. napaakbay lang sya sken. parang dalawa lang ang nakikita kong reaction. mayaman si lalake o DOM yan. c babae gustong umangat ang buhay o SOCIAL CLIMBER. which is not true. nagpakilala lang kami sa mga kanya kayang pamilya ok na samin yun alam namin na ang crowd more than sa pamilya namin even some kamag anak would judge us. hindi sa nahihiya kami mag pakilala. but my partner wants to avoid you upset part ng chismis at mga tanong na kayo? di nga?, ang tanda nya na madami naman dyang iba?, siguro mayaman yan ano kaya ok kana dyan?, at matanda na yan di kana mapapaligaya? at may mga worst pa na tanong na alam ko para sa mga chismisan lang. ganyan talaga eh. kami na lang, iwas na lang mas ok pa.kami naman ang mas nakaka intindi sa aming napaka gandang relasyon. i never had this much trust, love and passion. we love each other so much
The thought of a tatoo just put on by my niece and her hubby. They both got tatoos her’s was “Live,Laugh” and love and her hubby “only God can judge me”. When others gossip about you think of this sayings. You have the choice to be happy…
Very common ang mga ganyang reactions sa atin sa Pilipinas, pero hindi yata nila nakikita na mas magaling pa nga ang karamihan na May-Dec relationships dahil lalong matingkad ang kanilang pagsasamahan, kesa sa iba riyan na parang sandali lang naghihiwalay na or magkasama pa nga pero hindi masaya. Ako rin isa na sa may ganitong relationship. Mas bata sa akin ang asawa kong banyaga, hindi naman napakabata, kaya lang dahil nga banyaga, medyo mas bata sa akin ang hitsura. Once or twice yata napagkamalan siyang anak ko…nakaka irita, pero dinadaan ko na lang sa biro…sinasagot kong ‘suerte ko ano?’ At bakit nga ba ako magagalit? It’s my choice, hindi sa kanila. Suerte ko nga…
korak!!!! lol
Kaya wala akong masyadong maraming kaibigan sa America! Kase mga Filipino dito mga walang respeto sa iba! kala mo kung sino Ang diyos nila! parehas Lang tayong lahat! Foreigner sa America at nakikibaka!
Cito, great way to tell them off!
Pinays married to foreigners get the same judgemental reaction. I am one of them and my husband is 12 years older than me. Lagi syang tinatanong kung he was in the Military. “Sagot nya palagi, my wife grew up here (US) and was already a citizen when I married her. AND No, I was never in the military” We just laugh the folly of these people na lang. That’s all you can do when dealing with people who don’t know any better.
It’s not just the culture why some are reacting in a negative way. It’s the ignorance and lack of values.
Remember Charlie Chaplin? His last marriage which was his 4th marriage to the daughter of Eugene O’ Neil, there was a 35 years gap, so OOna was like his daughter. But they were happily married.
I had the same problem when my wife and I who is a beautiful American girl 11 years younger than me, lived in the Philippines for 6 years. I’m a Filipino and not rich at all. When we are in a hotel, the bell boys won’t carry my bags thinking I’m just the driver. The grocery clerks act the same way. It’s worst when I am waiting for my wife in my car. All the drivers hover around me and ask me how I like working for a beautiful American girl. They all think that it is just not possible for a younger beautiful American girl to fall in love with a not too good looking Filipino guy. So when a situation like this happen, I just laugh inside and react by kissing my wife in front of them. Belat lang nila for gossiping.
Love your story
nice one!