Courting 101
Girls hate the “Pwede ba manligaw?..” line..
“Pwede ba manligaw?..” explanation:
- ang “Pwede ba manligaw?..” style ay isang cheap na paraan para sabihin sa isang babae na gusto mo siyang ligawan..
Scenarios:
Boy: Miss, pwede bang manligaw?..
Girl: Hindi po eh..
Result: Failed
Boy: Miss, pwede bang manligaw?..
Girl: Ok lang po..
Boy: So tayo na?..
Girl: uhm..
Result: Failed
Courting 101
1. Friends (or something close to that..)
- for the “love at first sight” stage (di pa kayo magkakilala..), it’s better kung itry mo muna makipagkaibigan sa kanya.. approach her like a gentleman and project confidence.. just prepare some good icebreakers and find some common ground..
objective – she knows very well that you like her the moment you said “hi”.. what you’re aiming at is for her to be interested in you..
2. Modern Technology
- kung close ka sa kanya or magkaibigan kayong dalawa or at the very least you exchange conversation on a daily basis, pwede ka ng gumamit ng modern technology.. try texting her.. or better yet talk to her regularly in person.. make her laugh, make her smile, know what makes her sad, find out what makes her cry..
objective – turn on sa LAHAT ng babae ang taong nakakapagpatawa sa kanila.. sa text man or sa personal.. just remember to be sensitive towards her feelings.. be the person she can lean on..
note – be there for her, but not always.. what i meant is wag yung sobra.. yung tipong magtetext ka para lang itanong sa kanya kung kumain na ba sya ng breakfast, lunch, snack, or dinner.. avoid dull moments, especially sa text.. don’t suffocate her..
Scenarios (text):
Boy: Good Morning.. kumain ka na ba ng breakfast?..
Girl: Yup..
Boy: Anu kinain mo?..
Girl: Tapsilog..
Boy: Wow!.. sarap naman nun.. ako kape lang at tinapay..
Girl: Ahehehe..
Result: nonsense..
Boy: Good Evening.. dinner time na.. kain ka na rin ha..
Girl: Okies..
Result: nonsense..
too much togetherness isn’t really necessary.. spending time apart gives you new stories to share.. it helps you grow as a person.. when you see or talk to each other a little less, you value your time together..
3. Make her miss you..
- try doing this once in a while.. di mo naman siguro ikamamatay ang hindi sya itext or makausap ng isang araw eh..
4. Date
- uhm, particularly first dates.. preferably dinner.. pinakaimportante ito sa lahat.. the usual.. a place with a romantic ambience and delicious food is a must.. pero wag mo na masyadong pabonggahin ang lahat.. baka yung lugar lang at pagkain ang maging topic nyo sa buong time na magkasama kayo..
note – it’s good to pick the right place with the right food.. just remember, the date isn’t about whether she’ll like the experience or not.. it is about HER..
pointers:
tip big.. don’t agonize over the math.. assume the male role..
irrelevant cases:
“Ang mahal pala ng pagkain dito..”
“Kanya kanya tayo ha.. Joke..”
“Magkano kaya ang maibigay na tip?..”
objective – dinner conversation.. if possible, don’t talk about your boring job, petty problems, or stupid hobbies.. what else is there?.. HER!.. her boring job, her petty problems, her stupid hobbies.. no woman ever came home from a date complaining that all she did was talk about herself.. be a good listener and respond.. you’ll appear interested in her and she’ll feel closer to you.. in that way you remain an enigma.. which is also your ticket to your next date..
5. Be yourself..
- ALL THE TIME.. in every relationship, it’s easier to be yourself than to be somebody else.. pretending what you are not will do you no good..
note – uhm, personal hygiene.. need to explain?.. kung di mo hobby ang maligo or magtoothbrush at balak mo na manligaw sa isang babae, well this is a perfect time to be somebody else.. ikaw ba gusto mo na may kausap ka na parang trak ng basura ang bibig sa tuwing umiimik sya?.. TRY to look and smell good.. malay mo, kaya lang pala di ka nya nagustuhan eh dahil kulang ka ng tatlong paligo..
6. Crowning Moments
- mga sandali na pakiramdam mo eh mahal ka rin nya.. (or may gusto sya sayo..)
Lines to avoid:
“Talaga!.. Mahal mo rin ako?..”
“Mahal kita, tayo na?..”
“So tayo na?..”
“Pakipot pa eh, tayo na kase!..”
“Pangit ng date ngayon, bukas na lang tayo maging tayo..”
objective – there is no such thing as a perfect day or a perfect time when courting a girl.. EVERY MOMENT WITH HER IS PERFECT..
note – when you’re in a relationship with someone, that doesn’t mean that you’ll stop courting her.. send her flowers twice a week, write her a letter once a month, go out on a date with her once in a while.. you’ll soon find out that courting her is just a single drop of water in an ocean of love..
REPEAT FROM THE BEGINNING
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sweet! Naku pr0c0pio pagganyan ang kadate ko, huuu… Mapapasag0t talaga ako ng oo.
salamat po sa mga nakaappreciate.. i know this is kinda so long ago, but it’s nice to experience something like this once in a while.. that’s what inspired me to write this article..
natawa naman ako sa “kanya-kanya to ha!” HAHAHHAHAHAHA xD
its still nice to court a girL, actuLy it brougth a passioN towards showing her that she is speciaL or der is sumthing special to her that caugth the attentioN of a guy that is why a guy decided to court her. every girL stiLL fiNd it nice if a guy asK her that he wanted to court her. sometimes, its the other way arouNd. InsteaD of a guy asking a girL to court her, he is doiNG A Little stupidity of cLumsy thing juSt to get the attentioN she wanted from a girL. In shorT, a guy caNt saY it directLt that is whY he is doiNg sucH actiOns.
i honestLy fiNd it sweet if a guy ask a girL such questiOn! (pwede ba manligaw?)
Procopio got the grove That’ s the way we like it !!!!!!
Procopio got the grove That’ s the way we like it !!!!!!
dina uso yang tuto-tutorial sa panliligaw ni mickey bustos. negosyo lang niya iyan para bumili ang mga kalalakihan ang libro niya.
tingnan mo? OA daw! gusto na kasi nang karamihang babae ngayon pag hindi nila masabi na gusto nila ang isang nagugustuhan nilang lalaki SUNGGABAN SILA.
tingnan mo? OA daw! gusto na kasi nang karamihang babae ngayon pag hindi nila masabi na gusto nila ang isang nagugustuhan nilang lalaki SUNGGABAN SILA.
A dinner in a classy restaurant might work… make her a center of every topic you discuss, appreciate her makeup, hairdo and everything with her… always look at her eyes directly and passionately when you are saying something about her. Make her feel comfortable in every moment you are with her… hold her gently when she walk up/down to escalators/stairs… hand her a flower when you partied ways back home… send her a good night sweet message and give thanks for spending her time with you…
A dinner in a classy restaurant might work… make her a center of every topic you discuss, appreciate her makeup, hairdo and everything with her… always look at her eyes directly and passionately when you are saying something about her. Make her feel comfortable in every moment you are with her… hold her gently when she walk up/down to escalators/stairs… hand her a flower when you partied ways back home… send her a good night sweet message and give thanks for spending her time with you…
ang OA!
dina uso yan! generally speaking babae na rin ang lumiligaw kasi wala na sa kanila yung tinatawag na “pahele-hele bago kere”. SILA NA/KAYO NA!
also watch Mikey Bustos’ Filipino Courting Tutorial Ü